The Importance of Friendship

Friendship plays a major role in an ordinary person’s life. Having few good friends is like a blessing. They say a friend is need is a friend indeed. But that will be like seeing a blessing in a micro term. A friend is someone who is always beside you, not just during the times of need. 

Having a relationship as beautiful and pure as friendship works on several layers. You can confide in someone. You can always share your stuff with a friend. You will always find your friend standing for you during the times of distress and sadness. Experts say, a person with good friend circle lives a longer and healthier life. They are the best medicine for our boredom. Sending friendship sms and cards make our lives exciting and fun. 

Agree, one also has the support of parents, lover, kids and siblings but having a friend is like a shot in the arm. A knight in the shining armor, your mate offers you wonderful health benefits. Friends are known to improve your immunity system. Apart from acting as a wonderful support system, friends can keep you motivated and can also comfort you. Relationships provide us stability. They are an amazing source of relaxation.

In this world where you will find cut-throat competition at every place, having a good friend is a great source of relief. It’s all give and take in a relationship. People should be motivated and inspired enough to make new friends and cherish older ones.

Agony of Love

Now that we know the concept of relationships, how should we make relationships the source of joy and happiness? Can we replace rage, tension and grief that quite often emerge out of relationships, with happiness and peace? We all have relationships with different people in our lives like parents, siblings, friends, lover, colleagues, boss or teachers etc. Quite often we manipulate them or vice versa, bully or being bullied etc but one feeling is common and that is of helplessness. Rather call it dependence on others for our happiness.

Most of us have already experienced the beautiful feeling of love. Ever wondered what actually happens when you are in love? One single person starts affecting our lives so strongly. He or she becomes the single biggest source for our happiness. We try our best to please that person, to be with him/her, to be loved by the person and all these for what? To see the relationship last long! This one relationship makes us aware of a wide gamut of emotions including, love, joy, affection, tension, grief, pity, rage, excitement and frustration etc.

Now think about it! In reality you are in a love relationship and yet what you experience is pain. See the irony! So when pain has become such integral part of the love, did it remain love? How can it be? So what exactly we start experiencing? Well, it’s nothing but play of our imagination and needs of our own ego! What had started as love is no longer love but just fulfillment of our desires and our ego! Think about it!

The Concept of Relationships

Ever wondered whether we are free beings or not? In many aspects, yes will be the answer. But in few others, no will be more appropriate answer. So what encages us? Relationships? Yes, indeed! Right from the time when we are born, the pushing and shoving process in relationships always goes on. This process goes till your last breath. Our relationships determine critical things in our lives, the likes of which include; motives, moods and actions etc. so is there any way to get yourself free from this quagmire? Aren’t relationships supposed to be one happy experience that are also beautiful and loving?

Many of you must have heard of J. Krishnamurti? He was a renowned philosopher. He once stated a beautiful line, ‘To be is to be related’! That statement clearly gives a lot of weightage to the concept of relationships. When we arrive in this world, we don’t live in an isolated mode. We get to meet numerous things and that includes relationships, events, objects etc, in our life. This is a kind of web that is never ending. Our relationships greatly define us as humans. This criterion of relationship also involves how we deal with others as well as ourselves.

One factor that is most critical in happiness quotient of an individual is his relationships. Good relationships are source of extreme joy and contentment. The types of relationships we have give others an indication of our state of minds. It also shows the intricacies of our personality including strength and weaknesses, generosity or lack of it, sense of complete security or need to have it and our sense of love, nurturing and caring.