Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Pain of Losing Someone

Losing someone very close is an extremely painful experience. People find it very tough to cope up with the realization that they will no longer be able to see someone in particular who was very close to the heart. Heart aches or should we say it feels as if heart is breaking. Such deep emotional feelings often manifest themselves in physical symptoms of heaviness and tightness in your body structure. The other parts of body seem like reacting in a way that they want to protect your aching heart.

Moments of grief are experienced by one and all. Hardly few people can ever claim to have not experienced this feeling at all. The issue to be tackled here is how soon we can get over with those painful feelings of grieve? These heartbreaking moments don’t need to exist for a long time because longer they last, more we feel like a part of us to the monster named grief.

It’s easier said than done. The trick is to realize and identify the feelings of grief. Once you become aware of the changing taking place in your body and inside, you are bound to change sooner or later. Not realizing your own feelings can make things worse and more painful. Losing someone close is definitely a life-changing event. The world does not seem the same. Deeper you go inside, more aware you will be and easier it will be for you to come out of the feeling of loss and restlessness.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Matter of Choice

Freeze the word ‘choice’ and think of it. A bit longer than what you would actually prefer to. We all have choices, no? Infact life is all about choices. It has been rightly said that either you choose for yourself or accept whatever life chooses for you. There is no other way. It is quite certain that whatever you choose will be filled with some troughs and roughs. But then, what in life is not? Our choices teach us a great deal about who we are and what are our needs. These choices reveal in great detail about our passions and desires.

World is an ever evolving place and so are we. Stagnation is no better than death. While one is dead he can still be sure of moving onto the next life but what about stagnant people with frozen mindset? They are not moving anywhere. They are okay with whatever situations they are in. if you feel you are in the same condition, you need to make a choice, either of being a perennial victim to stagnation or embracing the choice of change. Make sure to relish the choice and the lessons learned. It is also suggested to be grateful for the world of wisdom your changes represent.

Reminding oneself about importance of evolving is very pleasing to the senses. Don’t stop to do that because that will mark beginning of a sad chapter in your life. Even if a particular choice made you cringe, try to have a good laugh over it and move on. Be easy on yourself. After all, it’s a matter of choice.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Keep On Living

One of the basic truths of life is to keep on living. We constantly need to feed our soul and mind with things that we relish so that we keep on living in a harmonious and peaceful way. It is said that nobody is perfect. What does that mean? Isn’t it a license to commit mistakes and not regretting them? Yes, it is. Living simply implies we must do our best in every aspect of life. But in hindsight, we may not always be able to achieve the desired result despite giving our best. Why so? Simply because nobody is perfect.

No matter how well trained we are, how smart we think of ourselves and how many experiences we have acquired in the journey of life, we will still commit some mistakes that will make us feel terrible. But then, desire of achieving perfection comes at a price. If something goes wrong we don’t need to put ourselves down. Every experience is like a wake up call. We can always consider the whys, how’s and what’s of an event gone wrong. It’s always in our hand to constructively evaluate ourselves and take the responsibility. We can always learn from whatever happened and move on.

I know it’s easier said than done. But every good thing comes at a price. There is no such thing as free lunch. So why not gear up yourself for the challenging but exciting ride ahead. After all, we need to keep on living.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Importance of Mistakes in Our Lives

We humans are great learners. We have mastered the art of improvising and improving. Despite that fact and our tendency of trying to attain perfection in whatever we do, we often end up making mistakes and regretting later on. There is not one person who hasn’t committed any mistakes. And if someone claims otherwise it simply means he hasn’t tried anything. We humans have been designed in such a way that learning process comes naturally to us. So many times these lessons are disguised in form of obstacles, mistakes and difficulties. But then, what is life without the iota of those failures. It is said that our difficulties teach us more than what our successes do.

How true! Mistakes are part of our lives and we will keep making mistakes till our last breath. But while mulling over our mistakes we often tend to undermine our success and other positive experiences. Can’t we just say to ourselves that yes, we made an experience instead of saying we made a mistake? Perhaps this single change of words will bring huge joy and pleasure in our lives. As they say, it’s all about matter of perception!

Mistakes are essential parts of our lives. They are an indicator of where we need to take a pause in the maddening rush of life and take care of the things that demand our urgent attention. They are simply a way to remind us not to let loose what you have earned and acquired over the years. Don’t deny this necessity of life. Accept its importance and take it as a gift. Rest will become very easy.